On this day in history, exactly one year ago today … give or take a few hours, that is … Sara and I had our first date. We met online and had been e-mailing back and forth for a couple of weeks before we finally worked up the nerve to actually meet each other in person.
Just between you and me, I’m glad that we did!
It’s kind of funny because looking back, I distinctively remember her not being sure if she even wanted a relationship at the time and for a while I was kinda worried that she was going to back out and disappear, but fortunately I was persistent enough to stick around and coax her into giving it a shot, and a year later I simply couldn’t imagine it any other way. We’d both been through some pretty rough times recently and each of us came with our own “interesting” loads of baggage … who doesn’t, honestly? … but we supported each other and have worked through pretty much everything that’s stood in our way thus far and I’m confident enough in what we have to say tonight that I really don’t think there’s much of anything we couldn’t handle.
We’re a great team together and really, I think that’s what a good relationship has to boil down to or it’s just never going to work. And it’s tough to get over the ME mentality that we develop over the years between supporting ourselves and exploring what life has to offer and just trying to be independent – to work so hard towards the place where you don’t have to rely on anybody else, it’s certainly not easy to open yourself back up and learn that it’s ok to put yourself out there and rely on another person to help fill your daily needs, whether they be emotional, financial, or what have you. It’s a thing that needs a constant stream of good communications, even if and especially if it’s something you don’t want to hear. I may not like it during the fact, but one of the things that I love about Sara the most is that she’s got the guts to stand up to me and tell me when I’m wrong. A lot of people would rather kiss your ass or just keep their thoughts to themselves, but what good does that do either of us at the end of the day? Until we talk about it and get our thoughts out in the open, we can’t possibly expect to learn from our mistakes and move on – communication is good, even though sometimes it’s going to be unpleasant.
So I don’t know what the future holds, but I know that I want to have Sara in it with me and at this point, that’s good enough for me. We’ve come a long way over the past twelve months, seen a whole lot of good things and dealt with the bad ones as best we could, and at the end of the day I know that I’m a happier person because she’s in my life. Even if I can’t get her to pick up her dirty clothes every once in a while… 🙂
…I hope I make you as happy as you make me.